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Mommy Guilt and Not Spoiling the Child. Help!

“But what will you do??”   “Don’t hold the baby too much! You’re going to spoil him!” “Don’t just let him cry! You will stress him!” “Oh you work? Well who watches the baby?” “Oh that has got to be so hard to be away from him!”

Those kind of questions and statements can really mess with your head, because it begins to turn into Mommy Guilt. Which I had really badly when Aviry was a baby.

I will admit I often care too much about what people think of me. (I’m still growing y’all) What I end up doing at times is I OVER COMPENSATE for everything. I buy toys for Aviry because I feel guilty about not having my life in perfect order before he was born. I allow wiggle room that otherwise wouldn’t be given to him because I felt bad I had to work AND do homework. Little things start to slide. “Go ahead Aviry watch one more Episode. Have another cookie. Sure only 10 more minutes.”

We are entering a phase of  Aviry not completely understanding that everything we provide for him has LITERALLY been through hard work, sweat and at times many, many tears. At 9 I don’t expect him to understand this but I struggle with this situation.  How do you keep your child balanced in today’s world?  I want Aviry to understand hard work and appreciate what he has,  yet as a child I remember what struggling financially felt like and IT SUCKED. I don’t want Aviry to feel that. I learned very early on the importance of hard work and it has helped me tremendously in adult hood. Aviry is such a smart and amazing kid, I don’t want him to misunderstand the importance of hard work, or hinder him because of what he has or doesn’t have.

Parenting is just this constant journey where each day, week or minute can change. One day I feel like Super mom and the next I’m confused as ever. I’m not worried I know that Aviry will be just fine but any pointer or tips are always appreciated!

How do you teach hard work and instill passion into your children? What tips do you have for me as a mom who tends to over compensate?

 

 

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A 90’s Summer for an iGeneration kid.

Aviry is in need of an old school summer. By old school I really mean a 90’s kid summer (Because I am not that old!) that’s how I grew up and I want Aviry to be able to experience some carefree old school fun.  In honor of preparing for an old-school summer I am creating a list of some of the fun things we used to do as kids when it was summer vacation and I want my son to be able to experience that as well!

We live in the city in an apartment where there really is not a lot of play space. : ( I grew up with a backyard. And I know that within the next year we will have a home with a backyard for Aviry. He uses the apartment as a play space but I don’t want to stifle his creativity just because I’m not a home owner yet. Aviry prefers the indoors and I want him to see what exciting things can happen outdoors!

I have compiled a list of ways Aviry can have a 90s kid summer! Who needs YouTube when you can play outside all day?

  • Super soakers, water guns, water balloons, and sprinklers no summer is complete without any of those items and we all know why!
  • Hide and go seek in the dark as a parent this game actually terrifies me but as a kid it was the most fun!
  • Riding your bike everywhere you can.
  • I think there should be at least one night he’s able to stay out when the streetlights are on. (With adult supervision of course) #helicoptermom
  • Road trips.
  • So this may not appeal to all the boys out there but I think jumping rope should be a major part of every childs summer. I WAS A BEAST AT DOUBLE DUTCH.
  • Sleepovers!
  • Limited Technology!
  • Parks and playgrounds.
  • I think playing sports is an awesome way to really have a 90s kid summer. It doesn’t have to be on the team but I think there’s nothing like a good old fashion basketball game or a good old fashion baseball game to just keep your child in shape and to learn healthy competition.
  •  Popsicles! Ice cream trucks! Every time an ice cream truck comes by we are there! OK. well maybe not every time but we will be regular customers of the ice cream truck.
  • Maybe it’s the Chicago in me but my summer was definitely spent eating sunflower seeds and pickles so I will probably pass that traditional to him as well.
  • Learn how to fix a popped bike chain.
  • I want him to have a friend over for a few days or him go over a friends house for a few days for so long that they actually  know what it feels like to get tired of someone. But still love them enough to where you’re still best friends.
  • Saturday morning cartoons! Staying up late with me watching movies that I used to like when I was a kid Saturday morning. Although I am not sure if he is going to love the Baby Sitters Club!
  • I want him to find a book that he actually loves and I want him to just spend a day in the house reading because he wants to.  Thank the Lord for DogMan.
  • Rollerblading.
  • Making our own popsicles.
  • Lemonade Stand.
  • Hikes.
  • Old school ice cream parlors.

What are your best memories of Summer Vacation? What fun activity do you think our iKids would love!

I would love to hear and pass them along to my kiddo!

Make it a great one!

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Birthdays!

Aviry has just turned 9 a little over a week ago I can’ t believe it,  I like to post twice a week, but with a new job and a birthday to plan I have been a tad busy. 

It seems like just the other day I was scrambling around like a chicken with my head cut off to pull off the “perfect” party for a 1 year old. ( Word of advice to all the mommies out there, DON’T GO CRAZY FOR A PARTY YOUR CHILD WON’T REMEMBER!)  Also if you are anything like me I know you won’t take that advice, but I do wish I would have dialed his party back some. It was a lot of pressure for a person who had never thrown a birthday party for a one year old. 

So in the spirit of having a 9 year old! I will share a few great places to take your littles ones, and some tips to get you through the chaos that are children’s parties!

I am a huge fan of having parties at a venue, the cleanup is minimum and its nice to try a new place. Living in Cincinnati we have had some amazing parties at a variety of locations some of our favorites are listed below.

  1. Scene 75 – Scene75 is your place to go for FUN! With more than 10 attractions, 120 arcade games, full bar & food options, Scene75 has something to do for all ages! Not only is each Scene75 one of the LARGEST indoor entertainment centers in the country, but it also was recently awarded #1 Entertainment Center in NORTH AMERICA by the International Association of Amusement Parks and Attractions. We’re not kidding around about being the best spot for a celebration or day of fun. Now that Aviry is older Scene 75 allows Aviry and his friends to pick their own activities which he loves! (Scene 75 is also great for a date night!)
  2. Sky Zone- I love Skyzone. I had a fear of trampolines growing up and SkyZone definitely allows me to be a kid again I feel so free jumping!! Oh wait… This is about Aviry.  Aviry thinks Skyzone is one of the most “awesomeness” places ever! Sky Zone is the world’s first indoor trampoline park. They are the inventors of “fun fitness” and the makers of trampolines as far as the eye can see. They have been voted the number one out-of-the box workout, the best birthday party ever and best indoor family fun day. Experience WOW – the weightlessness of bouncing, flipping and landing in a pit filled with 10,000 foam cubes.
  3. The Cincinnati Zoo- Having a winter baby can make party options limited. When a dear friend of mine discovered the Cincinnati Zoo has birthday parties, I was very excited to celebrate Aviry’s Birthday there!  We celebrated his party a few years ago and I am pleased to say the packages are even better now than they were before. Packages include activities for the little ones, Animal viewings and admission to the zoo for your guest. 

Home Parties

Home parties always remind me of my childhood. For a few hours I don’t mind children everywhere and cupcake frosting on the walls!

Listed below are a few  suggestions on having an at home party with ease. 

  1. Have everything done beforehand. No Last minute runs to get candles, or plates. The more organized you are prior to the party the better! Lists are your friend! Also you can find great decoration kits online!
  2. Have a schedule for your party, and stick to it. I learned this valuable piece of information from my friend Brandi at Yours Truly Event Planning. She helped me plan an event recently and was a stickler about scheduling and it really helped the flow of the event. I am adding her tip to my rule book!
  3. Enlist help! I am super fortunate to have close friends with children who are around the same age and they are the best helpers! From decorating to cleaning up. I know my girls have my back.
  4. Try to avoid candy with wrappers and gum. ( You will thank me later.)

What are some of your suggestions for a stress free Birthday Party at home?

 

 

 

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Jurassic Quest!!

Dinosaurs are coming to Cincinnati!!

Jurassic Quest is Here!

Yay!!

I believe I may be more excited than Aviry, I have always loved learning about dinosaurs, who doesn’t? The large creatures that existed long ago have always intrigued me. So when I found out Jurassic Quest was coming to Cincinnati I knew me and the fam had to go!

“Jurassic Quest brings you a Dinosaur Adventure for the whole family. The main dinosaur exhibit features ultra-realistic, life-size animatronic dinosaurs; Over 80 life-size dinosaurs in all. Visitors can interact with these huge creatures, learn about them and even ride a few. It features realistic scenes, enormous dinosaurs, cute baby dinosaurs and lots of fun activities for kids of all ages. There are huge T-Rex and Triceratops fossil digs where young paleontologists can uncover long hidden dinosaurs bones, the “Dino Bounce” area with several, towering, dinosaur theme inflatable mazes, face painting, Dino crafts and much more!” 

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Jurassic Quest will be at The Duke Energy Center In Cincinnati, Ohio this Saturday, January 27th and Sunday, January 28th.  From 9am Until 8pm.  Find out when Jurassic quest will be near you here.

This event is for all ages! They will have fossil digs, bouncy houses, and ULTRA REALISTIC- LIFE SIZE ANIMATRONIC DINOSAURS!!!!!!!

Jurassic Quest here we come!

I recommend getting tickets right away! Tickets are between 18 and 34 dollars, the event is all day and includes free activities so you will definitely get the bang for your buck!

I have a feeling this event will something to “ROAR” About!!! (hehehe)

Thanks for reading my fellow Babymamas and friends!

Will you be at Jurassic Quest?

Spread the word!

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Snow Dayz!!!

 

Snow. Ice. Cold. Yeah it’s winter. Yippee! Born in the Windy City, I have a love / hate relationship with the snow. Maybe Its me, but I feel all Chicagoans have a pretty big ego when it comes to their ability to endure the snow. I constantly brag about memories of myself as a young girl and  the journey to school wearing 3 pairs of pants, 2 sweatshirts and a snow suit that left me with little visibility and no peripheral vision. I loved snowball fights, building snowmen and staring up at the sky as I created snow angels, then after I was just too cold I remember coming into a warm house and the smell of my moms cooking.

As an adult the snow loses it’s appeal pretty quickly.  The second you are forced to wake up when its dark, go into the freezing cold, scrape ice off of your car, only to drive on slippery streets filled with high risk drivers, and the salt that keeps us safe all while destroying the finish on our cars casts a grey shadow over the once pristine white snow. That my fellow Mothers and Baby mamas is why I hate the snow.

I told you it was love hate. The memories of my childhood are the reasons I LOVE a good snow day.  So I have chosen to share some Snow Day Ideas.

My favorite snow day activities for Aviry and I.

Pancake Art! Aviry is a Youtube kid. He doesn’t have a favorite Movie star. He has favorite Youtube stars. We discovered a video of Pancake Art. So of course we decided to try it! Its So simple. You just need pancake mix. (From the box, or scratch if you’e feelin fancy) and food coloring.

You simply divide the mix into bottles or bowls evenly and add food coloring. This part is really fun for the kids because they get to make their own custom colors!

To cook the pancakes we use a griddle. A flat service makes a great canvas.

Allow the Griddle to reach the correct temperature and begin to make artwork! Its quick and fun as well as a great way to get older kids comfortable in the kitchen.

Music and Dancing, If it can’t be warm outside, we can at least listen and dance to music that reminds us of the summer. My go to song right now is Havana by the super talented Camila Cabelo

Another fun activity is of course sledding! Find your nearest hill grab a sled and have a blast!

If you’re little one is anything like Aviry he wouldn’t be able to handle a snow day without some uninterrupted technology time. I know that technology is the way of the future but I often would worry about his obsession with the need for screens. Because of that I am happy to say I have found a solution with Amazon!  Check out Amazon FreeTime Unlimited TrialIts perfect for kids, allows parents to sneak in educational activities and the kids have no idea you were able to squeeze some schoolwork into their snow day!

Now another activity is winding down with a warm drink. It could be hot chocolate, tea, A hot toddy with really nice whiskey… (Ahh). Anywho one of the best ways to commemorate a snow day is through hot chocolate. . After you have snuggled up with your cup of hot cocoa and a good book. Take a moment to take advantage of the chance to take a pause in your busy week and enjoy some time with your loved ones!

What are some of your favorite snow day activities?

I would LOVE Ideas, because the way it’s looking in the midwest. I am going to need more ideas! ; )