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Notes to Self.

Reminders for myself to keep my mind right.  I just decided to make a list of things that I know will help take my life to the next phase, and that I believe will help me to become my best self.

  • Sharon stop hitting snooze. Seriously.
  • Fuck Netflix and every other time wasting streaming service.
  • Go outside.
  • Ride a bike.
  • Ok maybe you don’t need to hit the gym everyday, but do a light stretch and workout daily.
  • DRINK WATER.
  • Pay bills in advance.
  • Save your money.
  • Time is fleeting so really embrace the moment.
  • Slow down.
  • Other people’s time is important.
  • Stop being a people pleaser.
  • Aviry is only getting older.
  • Time is money.
  • I am in charge of my destiny.
  • Love hard.
  • Breathe.
  • If I think the dogs need a bath, they need a bath.
  • Always work in your passion, It never feels like work.
  • Finish what you started.
  • Hug often.
  • Laugh.
  • Take naps.
  • Kiss longer.
  • Wine is cool, but don’t be cheap.
  • Show gratitude.
  • Pray.
  • Mediatate.
  • Say no.
  • Sing
  • Read.
  • Act.
  • Remember your why!
  • Trust your gut.
  • You don’t know it all.
  • Follow through.
  • Follow up.
  • Dance.
  • Learn how to swim.

5 Reasons I love Spring Break!

Its that time of the year Spring break is in full season!

Whoo hoo!  SPRING BREAK!!!  ( Takes shot and smashes beer bottle on bar!)

That’s how I always imagined spring break would be if I had ever made it to some wild crazy place where the college kids go. Ahhh well, those dreams died pretty quickly when I became a mom at 20.  I have to admit I have grown to be ok with avoiding the hangover that I am sure accompanies spring break during college.

What I am familiar with is Spring break and Motherhood, and I tell you what. Teachers deserve a RAISE. I know my son has this endless supply of energy and somehow teachers manage to keep a gaggle full of children calm enough to educate them!! That is surely some type of magical power.

We usually go out of town for Spring Break, but our work schedules have become a bit hectic. So I have decided to write 5 reasons why I love spring break.

  1. Being able to watch Aviry play, often when school is in session he darts to Netflix or Youtube and it drives me nuts! What I get to see over Spring Break is he actually loves to play with his toys and has an extremely vivid imagination.
  2. I enjoy the flexibility that comes along with spring break, I enjoy staying up late, and finding fun things to do, but HONEY let me tell you my son eats like a man and is a walking hurricane.  With all this being said I wish that all of my days offered the same flexibility that Spring Break brings to my family.
  3. Not having to catch the school bus when it’s dark outside.
  4. Finding a new and fun place to go in the city.  Although we weren’t  able to go out of town this year I think its important to still find a place to have a blast at.
  5. The day feels longer.

Does that make me crazy? I love when the day seems longer and time moves a little slower.  It’s nice to not be in a rush to have dinner on the table by 6:30.

All I know is thank the Lord for Spring Break because its been nice to slow down a bit.

What do you do to keep your little ones occupied for spring break?

Until next time you wonderful mommies out there!

Birthdays!

Aviry has just turned 9 a little over a week ago I can’ t believe it,  I like to post twice a week, but with a new job and a birthday to plan I have been a tad busy. 

It seems like just the other day I was scrambling around like a chicken with my head cut off to pull off the “perfect” party for a 1 year old. ( Word of advice to all the mommies out there, DON’T GO CRAZY FOR A PARTY YOUR CHILD WON’T REMEMBER!)  Also if you are anything like me I know you won’t take that advice, but I do wish I would have dialed his party back some. It was a lot of pressure for a person who had never thrown a birthday party for a one year old. 

So in the spirit of having a 9 year old! I will share a few great places to take your littles ones, and some tips to get you through the chaos that are children’s parties!

I am a huge fan of having parties at a venue, the cleanup is minimum and its nice to try a new place. Living in Cincinnati we have had some amazing parties at a variety of locations some of our favorites are listed below.

  1. Scene 75 – Scene75 is your place to go for FUN! With more than 10 attractions, 120 arcade games, full bar & food options, Scene75 has something to do for all ages! Not only is each Scene75 one of the LARGEST indoor entertainment centers in the country, but it also was recently awarded #1 Entertainment Center in NORTH AMERICA by the International Association of Amusement Parks and Attractions. We’re not kidding around about being the best spot for a celebration or day of fun. Now that Aviry is older Scene 75 allows Aviry and his friends to pick their own activities which he loves! (Scene 75 is also great for a date night!)
  2. Sky Zone- I love Skyzone. I had a fear of trampolines growing up and SkyZone definitely allows me to be a kid again I feel so free jumping!! Oh wait… This is about Aviry.  Aviry thinks Skyzone is one of the most “awesomeness” places ever! Sky Zone is the world’s first indoor trampoline park. They are the inventors of “fun fitness” and the makers of trampolines as far as the eye can see. They have been voted the number one out-of-the box workout, the best birthday party ever and best indoor family fun day. Experience WOW – the weightlessness of bouncing, flipping and landing in a pit filled with 10,000 foam cubes.
  3. The Cincinnati Zoo- Having a winter baby can make party options limited. When a dear friend of mine discovered the Cincinnati Zoo has birthday parties, I was very excited to celebrate Aviry’s Birthday there!  We celebrated his party a few years ago and I am pleased to say the packages are even better now than they were before. Packages include activities for the little ones, Animal viewings and admission to the zoo for your guest. 

Home Parties

Home parties always remind me of my childhood. For a few hours I don’t mind children everywhere and cupcake frosting on the walls!

Listed below are a few  suggestions on having an at home party with ease. 

  1. Have everything done beforehand. No Last minute runs to get candles, or plates. The more organized you are prior to the party the better! Lists are your friend! Also you can find great decoration kits online!
  2. Have a schedule for your party, and stick to it. I learned this valuable piece of information from my friend Brandi at Yours Truly Event Planning. She helped me plan an event recently and was a stickler about scheduling and it really helped the flow of the event. I am adding her tip to my rule book!
  3. Enlist help! I am super fortunate to have close friends with children who are around the same age and they are the best helpers! From decorating to cleaning up. I know my girls have my back.
  4. Try to avoid candy with wrappers and gum. ( You will thank me later.)

What are some of your suggestions for a stress free Birthday Party at home?

 

 

 

The Skin I’m In. Challenges and Triumps. Skincare Talk.

Well hello my baby mams’s, mamas and friends!!

Today I want to talk about my face.

I have grown up acne, it sucks. About once a month I will get a hideous pimple that seems to leave a mark even if I don’t attempt to annihalate it with an extraction tool. (Which I sometimes do) : (

Hyper-pigmentation is such an a huge problem for me! I have always enjoyed having relatively clear skin, but the last few months have proven challenging. Adult acne is real y’all and its a mutha#$&!

I have been doing some research into adult acne and hyper-pigmentation and here is what I am doing to battle it. I will include some before and after photos and will also be posting progress pictures to my instagram! 

Hyper-pigmentation is  is a common, usually harmless condition in which patches of skin become darker in color than the normal surrounding skin. This darkening occurs when an excess of melanin, the brown pigment that produces normal skin color, forms deposits in the skin.

I hate it! Especially because I have gone my entire life with fairly clear skin. So I have NO PATIENCE FOR PIMPLES!

I have begun compiling what works for me and what can help for anyone who wants to achieve clear skin!

So lets raise our glasses to clear skin…

Maracuja Oil

I have begun my research into this pesky skin problem and my mom actually led me to try Maracuja Oil.  Which you can find on amazon here.  Maracuja is a word that comes from the Amazon region of the world and refers to the passion fruit as it’s typically extracted from either the seeds of the fruit or from passion flowers, an exotic, beautiful flower that offers a host of health benefits.

Natural living.com tells us many benefits of maracuja oil that include it being an

Anti-inflammatory: It helps to reduce inflammation, something that’s considered to be the root of many illnesses and disease.

Emollient: An emollient is considered to be an outstanding moisturizer for the skin.

Antioxidant: Its compounds have the ability to scavenge free radicals which help to prevent the tissues from damage.

Anti-insomnia: It helps to induce more restful sleep.

Anti-itch: It can relieving skin itching.

Anti-stress: It’s been found to have a powerful stress-relieving effect.

Anti-tussive: It’s an effective cough suppressant.

Anti-asthmatic: It can reduce the symptoms of asthma and bronchial spasms.

Anxiolytic: It can help relieve the symptoms of anxiety.

While researching maracura oil I was so surprised to read of the oils  many benefits. I began using maracuja oil after my mom told me how soft her skin felt and how she noticed a decrease in her fine lines and wrinkles.

I have been using Maracuja oil nightly on my skin for about 3 weeks and have noticed some fading of acne scars. Although I may cut down to 3-4 nights a week because my out breaks have remained the same.

Below are some progress photos.

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Week 1 and Week 2

Here is a photo taken today about 3 weeks later. ( Today)IMG_0198I would definitely say the maracuja oil is fading the hyper-pigmentation on my face. Which is great! The one downside for me, although it does not hurt my adult acne, it doesn’t help it either. I wish I saw an improvement in that area.

Vitamin C Serum.

Which I just started using. I haven’t really noticed a difference, I have began applying the Vitamin C oil under my make up. It has only been a week but I will keep you all posted!!

Gentle Exfoliation.

Exfoliating is important because it helps to get rid of dead skin cells and helps promote the growth of new skin cells. Although exfoliating is not needed daily! Too much exfoliation can lead to more breakouts.

Facials and Masks.

I always love a good at home facial. I am obsessed with the Clay Masks by Loreal. They work extremely well and are not too expensive.

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This is a photo from when I first used the mask about a year ago. 

Look at it go to town cleaning my pores!! I use a face mask about once or twice a week. I alternate between a variety of mask. But I try to do a clay mask and then a moisturizing mask about 2 days later. I often get comments on how young I look for my age. Which is always so flattering, but I would love to stay pimple free!

I have seen results and next hope to be able to get the pesky outbreaks under control.

Cheers to clear skin and drinking more water!

What are your go to skin care tips? Share your secrets!

28 Reasons I Love Being a Mom!

  1. Aviry has a real world view of adulthood. I’m still learning to adult. (I think we all are) Although this leads to many teachable moments.
  2. I have a lot of energy.
  3. I work harder than I ever would have on my own.
  4. I had to learn how to cook tasty and nutritious meals.
  5. Kids movies are pretty awesome.
  6. Aviry is funny!
  7. When you see your child do something or say something that lets you know you are raising an awesome human being.
  8. I will forever have an ongoing education because I have to help with homework.
  9. I am responsible for someone else’s laundry. So I have to do mine.
  10. The feeling of loving someone so much you can literally feel it in your heart and soul.
  11. Because I’m a millennial mom. When Aviry is up at night not feeling well you can barely tell with the fancy concealers we have on the market.
  12. I love watching him learn.
  13. The joy of watching Aviry persevere.
  14. When your kid does something inappropriate, but, its hilarious.
  15. Watching the dogs and Aviry fight over who will run the pack
  16. I have grown in my ability to smell a rat.
  17. I have so much grit.
  18. I can say I taught someone how to ride a bike.
  19. I am raising an awesome human being.
  20. To see your sense of humor in someone else.
  21. I get the best hugs and kisses.
  22. The smile when he is rewarded.
  23. The smile he has when he accomplishes something.
  24. The moment you realize you weren’t just waisting your breath.
  25. Seeing his imagination soar.
  26. Knowing you made a good looking kid,
  27. I get the best hugs.
  28. I know that this list is infinite.

 

Happy Friday!

Proud Mama!

I have to say I am so PROUD of my Aviry.

He has only one “C” on his report card!

Aviry is growing as a student and I am so proud of him.

To be brief Aviry was in a classroom environment where he felt disliked and ignored. Eventually after many conferences the teachers and I got to learn and appreciate one another.

This was not an easy task at all. During that time I felt ignored and left out by the teachers in his class. I felt judged. I felt Aviry was unfairly judged.

I had wondered did other parents feel this way? Am I doing this parent/teacher relationship thing right?

I should have spoken up. I could have but that’s something I struggle with.

Not one of the teachers knew we had been staying in a hotel the first 3 weeks of the school year. We had just experienced an apartment fire. We were fine our belongings were fine but it was a few days before we could gather our belongings. Suddenly we were moving to a new apartment on a different side of town and a much longer morning commute.

It was a lot going on. It was a lot for me and I know it had an effect on Avirys grades.

On top of that I was in school and working part time. I was stretched pretty thin.

I had wished for more support from the teachers. I wanted them to take a moment to get to know us.

Eventually they did. They began to take us seriously when they saw the progression in Aviry. We chose to hire Aviry a tutor through Club Z tutoring and we began changing our habits at home and following a routine It really helped Aviry. It gave him confidence. His grades went up and he worked so hard!

I’m proud to see that my son is determined and able to set goals and achieve them.

I know Aviry will accomplish everything he sets his mind too. I pray he is happy, healthy and able to achieve whatever is in his heart.

It just feels good to know that I think I’m getting the hang of this Mom thing. ; )

Little Passports!!

I am so excited to share with you Little Passports.

Aviry was gifted this awesome subscription service through his Grandma for Christmas. Aviry was gifted the Science Expeditions Kit. 

We received the first kit in January and were very excited to start learning about forensic science. The first kit included. A fingerprint experiment, DNA Extraction and Spatter Studies! Cool!

Each kit so far has had 3 experiments. We have only done one experiment from our January kit. Which was us taking our fingerprints and examining our similarities and differences.

February’s kit was about Aero-Dynamics! Aviry was so excited about this kit! The first experiment we did was the Ball Launcher! These kits are great for little ones. The instructions are easy to follow and Aviry only needed my help one time. Aviry was so excited to begin the next experiment which was making a hovercraft, I was pretty impressed. The experiments are fun and its so nice to see the fruit of your labor.

He can not wait to try to build the Mini Rocket Launcher!

I love how each month is a surprise for Aviry. He LOVES getting mail and Aviry is an iKid who loves technology. He thinks all of the experiments are so cool! He also likes to see the improvement in the experiment after he does it again.

We are so excited to have enrolled in this exciting subscription service. I will keep you all updated on our experiments and videos!

 

 

 

 

Tired!

You ever have one of those weeks that feel like you are going so hard that you haven’t had a second to think?? This has been one of those weeks. Well actually weeks. I have been running like a cheetah caught on fire. I. am. tired. I don’t know if there are any other women who do this. I know I do. I feel guilty when I am tired. I feel guilty when I take a moment for my self. I feel guilty when I’m busy and have to take my son to my moms house day after day.  I know that I’m not the only young mother thats running at 300mph. I have close friends who feel the same way. Becoming a mother at a young age can already be extremely daunting. When you are a young mother who wants to be the best full time mom she can be as well as a . Career woman. Student. Girlfriend. Wife. Housekeeper. Teacher. Friend. Actress. In shape. Entrepreneur. Whatever it may be. It can be draining. So. Draining. I write this to not complain, I write this to say that its possible to accomplish whatever you put your mind to. This is possible ONLY if you take care of yourself. Take care of your mental health. Eat right. Take care of your body. Pray. Meditate. Read a book. Utilize positive relationships. Tell your brain its ok to slow down!

I pride myself in being able to overcome so many obstacles, I pride myself in having grit. I enjoy defying the odds and not falling into every stereotype that society has wanted to put me in. But I wouldn’t be able to do any of this replenishing without a solid team behind me rooting for me wanting to see me win. I value my friends and family for that. I couldn’t do half of what I do with out them.

I am wanting us to unite. Help your tired friend. Reach out a hand. Lets work together to reach goals that are hard on our own, but easy to accomplish as a team. Lets bring back potlucks and having kids over to take a load off of a friends back. Call your friend check on your friend.  Lets help each other. The world isn’t always on our side. It’s time we start helping each other out.

Pass this along to a friend. Let it be your way of saying “I see you girl. Working hard for the money and chasing your dreams, you need anything? I got you! ”

To all my fellow tired ladies out there. Lets take a nap.