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Love My Hair a 30 Day Journey

The Journey to a better me, to a calmer and to a happier life has been taking place all year. From finances to beauty I am stepping it up a notch!

Due to these changes I am embarking on a 30 day Love my OWN hair journey.

A huge struggle for me is heat! I love a good blow out! Eliminating heat for a lot of ladies is something that comes easily. Although for me not too much. I struggle with what to do with my natural hair. I tend to get  insecure about the way I look when my hair is in its natural state. I love my hair, yet I haven’t figured out how to wear it when is is in its natural, curly, puffy, frizzy state.  So I am challenging myself to learn more about my hair to appreciate the texture I have and to love it just the way it grows.

Today is day one and honestly today was kind of a fail. I took my sew -in out last night. beautiful Hair from my online store prettyasporcelain.com. I deep conditioned my hair and it feels really really good and It feels really really soft.

Then I thought I could get fancy. I chose to do a twist out on my hair and if it did not dry all the way so it looks really messy. Even messed up my nails twisting my hair.  Luckily I was prepared for it to be messed up. I’m a trial by error hairstylist. I pulled out a cute little head wrap and it saved the day. I like my little high puffball I have going on today.

I  wish my twist out would have came out better here is a photo of day one after salvaging the twist out. I’m ok with it!

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I used Cantu Moisturizing Curl Cream, Coconut oil and Eco Style styling gel for this twist out.

Hopefully day 2  will be  better! We will see!

29 days to go of loving MY HAIR!!

Update!

Day 2 twist out. Turned out a little better but by the end of the day it was just a massive Puff. Luckily my friend who is a natural hair expert gave me a ton of advice and some product-recommendations.

She told me not to pull apart my twist too much so that my hair has room to untwist on its on and she also recommended using wrap lotion to help hold the twist!

That will be something to try for day 4 because I fell asleep before I could twist my hair. So we shall see!

it’s been a struggle! Trying to tame my hair. But I have to say I have gotten a ton of compliments. Which is nice but I’m running out of ideas

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Notes to Self.

Reminders for myself to keep my mind right.  I just decided to make a list of things that I know will help take my life to the next phase, and that I believe will help me to become my best self.

  • Sharon stop hitting snooze. Seriously.
  • Fuck Netflix and every other time wasting streaming service.
  • Go outside.
  • Ride a bike.
  • Ok maybe you don’t need to hit the gym everyday, but do a light stretch and workout daily.
  • DRINK WATER.
  • Pay bills in advance.
  • Save your money.
  • Time is fleeting so really embrace the moment.
  • Slow down.
  • Other people’s time is important.
  • Stop being a people pleaser.
  • Aviry is only getting older.
  • Time is money.
  • I am in charge of my destiny.
  • Love hard.
  • Breathe.
  • If I think the dogs need a bath, they need a bath.
  • Always work in your passion, It never feels like work.
  • Finish what you started.
  • Hug often.
  • Laugh.
  • Take naps.
  • Kiss longer.
  • Wine is cool, but don’t be cheap.
  • Show gratitude.
  • Pray.
  • Mediatate.
  • Say no.
  • Sing
  • Read.
  • Act.
  • Remember your why!
  • Trust your gut.
  • You don’t know it all.
  • Follow through.
  • Follow up.
  • Dance.
  • Learn how to swim.
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5 Reasons I love Spring Break!

Its that time of the year Spring break is in full season!

Whoo hoo!  SPRING BREAK!!!  ( Takes shot and smashes beer bottle on bar!)

That’s how I always imagined spring break would be if I had ever made it to some wild crazy place where the college kids go. Ahhh well, those dreams died pretty quickly when I became a mom at 20.  I have to admit I have grown to be ok with avoiding the hangover that I am sure accompanies spring break during college.

What I am familiar with is Spring break and Motherhood, and I tell you what. Teachers deserve a RAISE. I know my son has this endless supply of energy and somehow teachers manage to keep a gaggle full of children calm enough to educate them!! That is surely some type of magical power.

We usually go out of town for Spring Break, but our work schedules have become a bit hectic. So I have decided to write 5 reasons why I love spring break.

  1. Being able to watch Aviry play, often when school is in session he darts to Netflix or Youtube and it drives me nuts! What I get to see over Spring Break is he actually loves to play with his toys and has an extremely vivid imagination.
  2. I enjoy the flexibility that comes along with spring break, I enjoy staying up late, and finding fun things to do, but HONEY let me tell you my son eats like a man and is a walking hurricane.  With all this being said I wish that all of my days offered the same flexibility that Spring Break brings to my family.
  3. Not having to catch the school bus when it’s dark outside.
  4. Finding a new and fun place to go in the city.  Although we weren’t  able to go out of town this year I think its important to still find a place to have a blast at.
  5. The day feels longer.

Does that make me crazy? I love when the day seems longer and time moves a little slower.  It’s nice to not be in a rush to have dinner on the table by 6:30.

All I know is thank the Lord for Spring Break because its been nice to slow down a bit.

What do you do to keep your little ones occupied for spring break?

Until next time you wonderful mommies out there!

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Birthdays!

Aviry has just turned 9 a little over a week ago I can’ t believe it,  I like to post twice a week, but with a new job and a birthday to plan I have been a tad busy. 

It seems like just the other day I was scrambling around like a chicken with my head cut off to pull off the “perfect” party for a 1 year old. ( Word of advice to all the mommies out there, DON’T GO CRAZY FOR A PARTY YOUR CHILD WON’T REMEMBER!)  Also if you are anything like me I know you won’t take that advice, but I do wish I would have dialed his party back some. It was a lot of pressure for a person who had never thrown a birthday party for a one year old. 

So in the spirit of having a 9 year old! I will share a few great places to take your littles ones, and some tips to get you through the chaos that are children’s parties!

I am a huge fan of having parties at a venue, the cleanup is minimum and its nice to try a new place. Living in Cincinnati we have had some amazing parties at a variety of locations some of our favorites are listed below.

  1. Scene 75 – Scene75 is your place to go for FUN! With more than 10 attractions, 120 arcade games, full bar & food options, Scene75 has something to do for all ages! Not only is each Scene75 one of the LARGEST indoor entertainment centers in the country, but it also was recently awarded #1 Entertainment Center in NORTH AMERICA by the International Association of Amusement Parks and Attractions. We’re not kidding around about being the best spot for a celebration or day of fun. Now that Aviry is older Scene 75 allows Aviry and his friends to pick their own activities which he loves! (Scene 75 is also great for a date night!)
  2. Sky Zone- I love Skyzone. I had a fear of trampolines growing up and SkyZone definitely allows me to be a kid again I feel so free jumping!! Oh wait… This is about Aviry.  Aviry thinks Skyzone is one of the most “awesomeness” places ever! Sky Zone is the world’s first indoor trampoline park. They are the inventors of “fun fitness” and the makers of trampolines as far as the eye can see. They have been voted the number one out-of-the box workout, the best birthday party ever and best indoor family fun day. Experience WOW – the weightlessness of bouncing, flipping and landing in a pit filled with 10,000 foam cubes.
  3. The Cincinnati Zoo- Having a winter baby can make party options limited. When a dear friend of mine discovered the Cincinnati Zoo has birthday parties, I was very excited to celebrate Aviry’s Birthday there!  We celebrated his party a few years ago and I am pleased to say the packages are even better now than they were before. Packages include activities for the little ones, Animal viewings and admission to the zoo for your guest. 

Home Parties

Home parties always remind me of my childhood. For a few hours I don’t mind children everywhere and cupcake frosting on the walls!

Listed below are a few  suggestions on having an at home party with ease. 

  1. Have everything done beforehand. No Last minute runs to get candles, or plates. The more organized you are prior to the party the better! Lists are your friend! Also you can find great decoration kits online!
  2. Have a schedule for your party, and stick to it. I learned this valuable piece of information from my friend Brandi at Yours Truly Event Planning. She helped me plan an event recently and was a stickler about scheduling and it really helped the flow of the event. I am adding her tip to my rule book!
  3. Enlist help! I am super fortunate to have close friends with children who are around the same age and they are the best helpers! From decorating to cleaning up. I know my girls have my back.
  4. Try to avoid candy with wrappers and gum. ( You will thank me later.)

What are some of your suggestions for a stress free Birthday Party at home?

 

 

 

Home Decor, motherhood

Decorating Like a Queen but spending like a Pauper.

Decorating a space makes me very happy. I love to decorate and I truly believe that your home should be your zen place.  Whether its decorating a room, the home for the holidays, hosting a party or even decorating a cake. I enjoy pretty things and I enjoy creating pretty spaces.

Although I enjoy a beautiful space. I am not a millionaire… yet.  so I enjoy being creative on a budget, I also love that my home feels like a very peaceful place. I  feel settled and my apartment feels like a home.

So I just wanted to share various projects that I have done around our place that are wallet friendly!

Table Decorations

Food Displays

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Christmas Cookie Bar and lots of sweets! 

Plants or flowers

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Flowers from My Love always brighten up our home!

Plants are such a great way to brighten up any area, I decorated flower pots for less than  5.00 and now I have lovely plants to bring color to our home.

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So if I have any advice for decorating like a queen on a pauper budget they would be.

  • Stick to solid or fairly neutral colors for furniture. That way when you are in the need for a change in your home, you can switch pillow or throws for very little cash.
  • Don’t be afraid to thrift store or the dollar store. Some of my best finds have been at places you wouldn’t expect.
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Dollar tree and thrift store combo!
  • Paint and spray paint are game changers! This shelf was once a boring old gray thing, now its GOLD!

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  • For those with limited storage space, furniture with storage will be your best friend!

Aviry picked this storage Ottoman from Bargains and buyouts $20 Bucks! I love it!

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  • Ask for the input of your family, I think one reason why people enjoy our space is that we decorate as a family. ( I still have the final say) Because if I let the boys decide everything we would have 6 tv’s in our living room. In all seriousness, they gravitate towards items I typically wouldn’t. Yet they always look great in our home and our house is a fusion of all of our ideas.

It was Carlos’s idea to mix and match the bar stools! Love it!

What are some of your decorating tips and tricks? I’m no interior designer but I love feeling at peace in my space and I love looking at pretty things. I can’t wait to look back one day at this post years from now and be so happy to see, that at this place in my life I am happy with our place and I have created a home out of a small space.  : )

Health, parenting

Head Cold Remedy

UUUURRRGGGHHH

I have had the most annoying cold/allergy attack ever!  Luckily I have a secret weapon.

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All you need is…

Tea.

Honey.  ( I typically prefer Local Honey, but this is what I had today)

Lemon.

Dash of Cayenne Peppers.

Hot Water.

It is so soothing and the Cayenne pepper helps to clear your sinuses.  You can get away without the tea. I like to drink it with chamomile tea at night.

Give it a try!

I also bet this would be really tasty iced!

Yum!

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A 90’s Summer for an iGeneration kid.

Aviry is in need of an old school summer. By old school I really mean a 90’s kid summer (Because I am not that old!) that’s how I grew up and I want Aviry to be able to experience some carefree old school fun.  In honor of preparing for an old-school summer I am creating a list of some of the fun things we used to do as kids when it was summer vacation and I want my son to be able to experience that as well!

We live in the city in an apartment where there really is not a lot of play space. : ( I grew up with a backyard. And I know that within the next year we will have a home with a backyard for Aviry. He uses the apartment as a play space but I don’t want to stifle his creativity just because I’m not a home owner yet. Aviry prefers the indoors and I want him to see what exciting things can happen outdoors!

I have compiled a list of ways Aviry can have a 90s kid summer! Who needs YouTube when you can play outside all day?

  • Super soakers, water guns, water balloons, and sprinklers no summer is complete without any of those items and we all know why!
  • Hide and go seek in the dark as a parent this game actually terrifies me but as a kid it was the most fun!
  • Riding your bike everywhere you can.
  • I think there should be at least one night he’s able to stay out when the streetlights are on. (With adult supervision of course) #helicoptermom
  • Road trips.
  • So this may not appeal to all the boys out there but I think jumping rope should be a major part of every childs summer. I WAS A BEAST AT DOUBLE DUTCH.
  • Sleepovers!
  • Limited Technology!
  • Parks and playgrounds.
  • I think playing sports is an awesome way to really have a 90s kid summer. It doesn’t have to be on the team but I think there’s nothing like a good old fashion basketball game or a good old fashion baseball game to just keep your child in shape and to learn healthy competition.
  •  Popsicles! Ice cream trucks! Every time an ice cream truck comes by we are there! OK. well maybe not every time but we will be regular customers of the ice cream truck.
  • Maybe it’s the Chicago in me but my summer was definitely spent eating sunflower seeds and pickles so I will probably pass that traditional to him as well.
  • Learn how to fix a popped bike chain.
  • I want him to have a friend over for a few days or him go over a friends house for a few days for so long that they actually  know what it feels like to get tired of someone. But still love them enough to where you’re still best friends.
  • Saturday morning cartoons! Staying up late with me watching movies that I used to like when I was a kid Saturday morning. Although I am not sure if he is going to love the Baby Sitters Club!
  • I want him to find a book that he actually loves and I want him to just spend a day in the house reading because he wants to.  Thank the Lord for DogMan.
  • Rollerblading.
  • Making our own popsicles.
  • Lemonade Stand.
  • Hikes.
  • Old school ice cream parlors.

What are your best memories of Summer Vacation? What fun activity do you think our iKids would love!

I would love to hear and pass them along to my kiddo!

Make it a great one!

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The Most Mom Things I Have to Say.

Hello and Happy Mother’s Day!

I hope your Mother’s Day was relaxing, peaceful, fun or whatever you wanted your Mother’s Day to be. I hope that it was!

In honor of Mother’s Day I wanted to share my list of “momisms”. The most mom things I say on a daily basis or things I do just because I’m a mom. What are your momism’s?

  • I showed up at the parent transition night at my sons school dressed like all of the moms jeans chuck and a T-shirt (this whole time I thought I was the only cool mom!)
  • Walking to the bus stop in pajamas.
  • Don’t use the bathroom outside!
  • Sometimes life isn’t fair kiddo
  • I love you
  • I am so proud of you.
  • Eat all of your food.
  • Don’t pull apart your green beans please.
  • Where are your shoes!?
  • Excuse me what was that?
  • No it’s time to get off of the game now!
  • It’s gonna be ok.
  • Homework isn’t an option.
  • Can you please just smile in this picture??
  • You’re so silly!
  • You’re so smart!
  • I don’t mind if your box fort take over your entire room, but you still need to clean it!
  • Yes it’s bedtime.
  • Didn’t I just say you need to take a shower?
  • Brush your teeth!
  • Here let me show you.
  • No I would rather not eat a booger than smell a fart. Lol.
  • Good morning Honey Bee.
  • Good night my love.
  • Yes school is important.
  • Have a great day!
  • Be your best.
  • Be kind.
  • You’re funny!
  • Shhh don’t tell them how old I am!

This list could go on for days!

I’d love to hear your momisms!

Happy Mother’s Day!!

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Our Vacation and the Importance of Chilling Out.

Its been a minute!!

I was on vacation and it was amazing. Carlos leaves for work in a little bit and we wanted to make sure we got some quality time  together before he leaves. I completely unplugged. I checked my email every 2 days, I barely called or texted anyone. It was great. So I have been MIA.

I didn’t have to cook dinner, or walk dogs, I was completely free and it felt great! Wanna know what else is funny? I missed it! There truly is no place like home and I love taking care of my boys. I couldn’t wait to get home and cook dinner while Aviry does his homework in the kitchen. I couldn’t wait to play with the dogs!  I couldn’t wait to do laundry! ( Thats a lie). But seriously thats one of the beauties of vacation. The chance to rejuvenate your mind and body, and put things into perspective. Carlos and I were also able to really connect and just focus on one another.  It truly was a great time.

It wanted to share why this vacation was so amazing and why it was so positive for our relationship.

Vegas

Carlos grew up in Vegas so we were able to spend time with his entire family. They are so welcoming and wonderful. It truly is a blessing to be able to see how much he is loved and to see how much he loves his family.

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Out and about exploring Las Vegas!

California

California was absolutely breath taking! Carlos rented a car and (bless his heart) drove all the way from Vegas to California! It was such a beautiful and relaxing drive. We arrive at this beautiful beach house!!!!

 

The ocean was literally at the back door it was one of the most amazing experiences of my life! We ate good food, met amazing people, and had a great time.

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I have to take some time and really spend a moment on Carlos and how much he thinks about me how much he truly knows me. Vacations can either make or break relationships I think this vacation definitely helped solidify ours.

I really do appreciate how much Carlos takes time to take us on an adventure. He loves to go places we have never been and do things we have never done. I love that about him. If it means he’s going to be up all night on the internet coming up with all the things we should do he will do that. If it means we are hopping in three different Uber’s just to try and find the best place to get chicken at 2 o’clock in the morning that is what we will do! If it means driving an hour to get the worlds largest crab legs then that’s what we’ll do! I love how much fun I have with him.  Carlos will make friends with anyone he meets. I love how he doesn’t hold back his ability to make connections. His personality always enhances our vacations. Because of his personality we were able to get discounts on rental cars, hotel room upgrades and we even had a few drinks on the house at a few places we went.

Love can be scary. Especially today. I feel very fortunate and very blessed that I have a partner who knows me so well and truly cares about me I don’t know what the future holds but I do know that my future has Carlos in it.

Without this amazing vacation who knows when Carlos and I would have had some time to unwind. It’s unfortunate because millennial’s get such a bad rap for the quality of  our relationships. We spend so much time grinding we can forget to work on our relationships or even ourselves.   Our vacation really pointed out the fact that I / we don’t ever really slow down even when we think were slowing down were really not.

Millennial’s don’t have it the same as previous generations.

I urge all of my millennial parents and non-parents to really  take some time to slow down! It’s the same rat race and if it means that I can feel a little bit more strongly about love and the man who I know is my soulmate then it means I need to slow down. If it means that I hear Aviry’s laugh a little more clearly than I will slow down.

I honestly don’t know how long it would’ve been for Carlos and I to have moments together with us to just be still and not have to worry about the various day to day stuff.. I am so thankful for this trip because it showed us the importance of taking time to slow down each and every day.  I feel guilty when I am not doing something. I believe its an after effect of having Aviry young and not ever wanting to be a “bad mom”. I call bull. Aviry needs me to slow down! Its better for everyone that way.

I do know that I am now officially making it a priority to slow down and not feel guilty about it. If it means to take a 10 minute break or if it means to shut down for a day. I will make it a priority to slow down.

So if you catch me out and about running around like a chicken with my head cut off. Please guide me to a chair, hand me a cup of tea and play me sounds of the ocean.

 

 

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The Skin I’m In. Challenges and Triumps. Skincare Talk.

Well hello my baby mams’s, mamas and friends!!

Today I want to talk about my face.

I have grown up acne, it sucks. About once a month I will get a hideous pimple that seems to leave a mark even if I don’t attempt to annihalate it with an extraction tool. (Which I sometimes do) : (

Hyper-pigmentation is such an a huge problem for me! I have always enjoyed having relatively clear skin, but the last few months have proven challenging. Adult acne is real y’all and its a mutha#$&!

I have been doing some research into adult acne and hyper-pigmentation and here is what I am doing to battle it. I will include some before and after photos and will also be posting progress pictures to my instagram! 

Hyper-pigmentation is  is a common, usually harmless condition in which patches of skin become darker in color than the normal surrounding skin. This darkening occurs when an excess of melanin, the brown pigment that produces normal skin color, forms deposits in the skin.

I hate it! Especially because I have gone my entire life with fairly clear skin. So I have NO PATIENCE FOR PIMPLES!

I have begun compiling what works for me and what can help for anyone who wants to achieve clear skin!

So lets raise our glasses to clear skin…

Maracuja Oil

I have begun my research into this pesky skin problem and my mom actually led me to try Maracuja Oil.  Which you can find on amazon here.  Maracuja is a word that comes from the Amazon region of the world and refers to the passion fruit as it’s typically extracted from either the seeds of the fruit or from passion flowers, an exotic, beautiful flower that offers a host of health benefits.

Natural living.com tells us many benefits of maracuja oil that include it being an

Anti-inflammatory: It helps to reduce inflammation, something that’s considered to be the root of many illnesses and disease.

Emollient: An emollient is considered to be an outstanding moisturizer for the skin.

Antioxidant: Its compounds have the ability to scavenge free radicals which help to prevent the tissues from damage.

Anti-insomnia: It helps to induce more restful sleep.

Anti-itch: It can relieving skin itching.

Anti-stress: It’s been found to have a powerful stress-relieving effect.

Anti-tussive: It’s an effective cough suppressant.

Anti-asthmatic: It can reduce the symptoms of asthma and bronchial spasms.

Anxiolytic: It can help relieve the symptoms of anxiety.

While researching maracura oil I was so surprised to read of the oils  many benefits. I began using maracuja oil after my mom told me how soft her skin felt and how she noticed a decrease in her fine lines and wrinkles.

I have been using Maracuja oil nightly on my skin for about 3 weeks and have noticed some fading of acne scars. Although I may cut down to 3-4 nights a week because my out breaks have remained the same.

Below are some progress photos.

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Week 1 and Week 2

Here is a photo taken today about 3 weeks later. ( Today)IMG_0198I would definitely say the maracuja oil is fading the hyper-pigmentation on my face. Which is great! The one downside for me, although it does not hurt my adult acne, it doesn’t help it either. I wish I saw an improvement in that area.

Vitamin C Serum.

Which I just started using. I haven’t really noticed a difference, I have began applying the Vitamin C oil under my make up. It has only been a week but I will keep you all posted!!

Gentle Exfoliation.

Exfoliating is important because it helps to get rid of dead skin cells and helps promote the growth of new skin cells. Although exfoliating is not needed daily! Too much exfoliation can lead to more breakouts.

Facials and Masks.

I always love a good at home facial. I am obsessed with the Clay Masks by Loreal. They work extremely well and are not too expensive.

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This is a photo from when I first used the mask about a year ago.

Look at it go to town cleaning my pores!! I use a face mask about once or twice a week. I alternate between a variety of mask. But I try to do a clay mask and then a moisturizing mask about 2 days later. I often get comments on how young I look for my age. Which is always so flattering, but I would love to stay pimple free!

I have seen results and next hope to be able to get the pesky outbreaks under control.

Cheers to clear skin and drinking more water!

What are your go to skin care tips? Share your secrets!

Update!

Hey everybody!

so I am working on my next blog post I just wanted to share with you all a quick update on what is going on with my skin!

I was on an amazing vacation with my boyfriend and he pretty much taking a break from all technology except for my camera so I have some awesome pictures to share as well as my love my new found love for the ocean

While away on vacation I felt my skin didn’t look really good I have been trying to cover up the Dark spots on my face and although in pictures you can’t tail up close I just didn’t really feel As confident as I said as I should have.

I still was pretty diligent with my skin care routine while on vacation I made sure to use plenty of sunscreen Because I was in Vegas and California where the sun is a lot more intense than where i reside in Ohio.

I kept up my skin care routine.

When I arrived home from Vacation I did a mild face peel which you can find here. I love it! I don’t do very often maybe once a month.

This is where my skin is today.

I feel I am seeing a vast improvement!

I’ll keep you all updated!